Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the term used to describe a successful
method of self development and communication skills. What makes NLP so different
from other types development or change disciplines is that it is an efficient and
effective technology for creating change.
What Does The Name Mean?
Let’s break down the name just a bit so you’ll understand the foundations before
moving on. “Neuro” stands for the mind and how it influences and controls the body.
It is much more than just the physical brain; rather, it is the way that the brain
affects the body on both conscious and subconscious levels. “Linguistic” stands
for the way a person uses language (words, tone, statements, questions, etc.). Language
is a powerful window into what a person thinks, and by observing a person’s language,
it is possible to discover a great deal about him or her.
The last part of the name – “Programming” – creates confusion when it is not
correctly defined. This part of NLP is not about programming a person to think certain
things, do things a certain way, or feel a certain way. Instead, programming is
the process of examining the patterns and thinking a person uses habitually (their
programs) and how they affect that person’s life. Everyone has their own programs,
but many people simply aren’t aware of them and the impact they have.
Where did NLP Come From?
NLP has been around for over 30 years, so it is not a fad or passing fancy. Its
roots are in the collaborative work of Richard Bandler, John Grinder, and Gregory
Bateson in the early 1970’s. Through observation and study, they created models
for how a person’s mind, language, and patterns of thinking combine to create what
that person perceives as reality.
From these early beginnings, NLP has evolved and grown as technique that can
be used in a variety of situations. It is based on behavior and observation with
the goal of uncovering life patterns that work well and life patterns that do not
work well. Once those patterns are identified, it is possible to go about strengthening
what works and changing what does not work.
Pop Culture or Valid Change?
NLP is not without its critics. Some people say that it is not a proper discipline
because it is not scientifically proven to be effective. Others take a more emotional
stance, attacking it as “new age” silliness and cult-like programming. To a certain
extent, these criticisms are valid – NLP is not empirically proven and there have
been extreme examples of practitioners misusing NLP to take advantage of others.
But that does not mean NLP is without value just because of a few extreme examples.
These kinds of criticisms do not take into account one very important thing –
NLP really works. Anyone can do it with just basic training in the techniques,
and there is certainly no shortage of people who have transformed their lives using
NLP strategies.
How Does NLP Have Such a Dramatic Impact?
The easiest way to explain how NLP produces such amazing results is that it is
a simple, straightforward approach to communication and personal development. NLP
effectively works with the structure of how people hold their realities in place,
whether it be a simple association one can make with a particular song or entire
belief systems about how they think the world to be. Those who study NLP learn right
away the tools and skills they need to directly and deliberately change thoughts
and behaviors.
There is one more critical element that has a direct impact on the effectiveness
of NLP – practice. As with anything else, NLP techniques must be practiced and used
regularly for them to be most effective. Many people attend workshops or seminars
to learn about NLP, and that is where they learn what they need to know. The real
work and real growth begins when participants head back out into the world and focus
on applying what they have learned in their everyday lives.
Summary
NLP is a popular and effective approach to personal growth and development. It
is practical and behavior based, which makes it relatively simple to teach and put
into practice. The techniques can be used by anyone who knows them as a powerful
tool for improving lives.